Lately, I’ve been enduring the pain of choosing growth over comfort. While experiencing frustration from growing pains, I have also encountered a lot of BS along the way. Enough setbacks, deception, fake friends, heartbreak, and backward stepping. Just the right amount of negativity to drive the average person insane.
So how is it possible to encounter BS and remain sane at the same time?
It may feel impossible at times, but finding ways to manage chaos and take care of business takes practice.
Here are 5 ways you can keep your sanity and manage the BS in your life at the same time:
1. Feel Without the Need to React.
Unpredictable chaos can throw off your mood, forcing you to feel several different conflicting emotions at the same time. When paired with reactions, your emotions can cause you to spiral out of control. Ultimately resulting in wasted time, inaction, over-reaction, or mistakes.
To manage the BS and remain productive, you have to master the art of enduring emotions. Know that it’s okay to feel angry, sad, tired, or defeated. However, acknowledging your feelings doesn’t mean that you have to pair the emotions with actions.
Instead, acknowledge that you are entitled to your feelings, yet your emotions aren’t entitled to your reactions. With practice, you can learn to deal with your emotions separately from the actions you need to take care of business. Soon, you’ll feel however you need to feel while continuing to be productive. This is a great way to maintain your sanity.
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2. Create a Regroup Plan
Sometimes it seems inevitable not to pair our emotions with reactions. A decision that usually sets us back and is counterproductive to our goals. It also adds more chaos to the BS that we are already trying to manage. This is where your proactive plan comes in handy.
Amid unexpected BS coupled with your reactions, it’s imperative to have a regroup plan to help you refocus. This plan doesn’t have to be complicated. Nor should it feel like another set of things to add to your to-do list.
A regroup plan, could be as simple as taking a couple of deep breaths while encountering issues. Deciding to take a walk to calm your nerves. Or doing a mindless activity, like doodling while you think about your next move.
Whatever you decide, be sure to make your regroup plan something quick and energizing. Make sure your plan helps you refocus timely enough to keep you on task and from going crazy.
3. Connect with a Therapist
You aren’t obligated to handle BS on your own. You have every right to reach out for help. Yet, who you reach out to doesn’t always have to be family or friends. There’s no shame in your helpmate being a licensed professional. Why not a therapist?
Therapists can help you pinpoint the areas in your life you need to work on. As well as help you develop coping strategies to deal with things that drive you mad. A therapist can also enlighten you to see different perspectives. They can even help you develop a game plan for dealing with situations that have a way of triggering you.
The best part about working with a therapist is that you will be able to get an unbiased opinion. Sometimes getting advice from people with a deeper insight into our problems can make things worst. A therapist will help you analyze your situations. The end result should leave you with a game plan, strategies to cope with triggers, and a calm mind.
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4. Ignore
When in doubt… IGNORE. Not every situation you encounter requires a reaction from you. No matter how chaotic the situation may be, it’s not always your burden to attack. By feeling the need to respond to every situation, you will go insane. Plus, you don’t have time to deal with everything and be productive at the same time.
Instead, consider delegating work to others, asking others for help, hiring help, or buying solutions to your problems. Invest in backup plans and people that can help you handle BS. This additional support will work wonders in keeping you sane and result-oriented.
5. Take a Break
Look…You just might need a break. Sit down somewhere. Log off of social media. Take a personal day from work. Whatever you do, remember to pay close attention to your self-care and personal affairs.
Sometimes the issues that we are facing may be due to the fact that we are neglecting ourselves and/or personal responsibilities. When we don’t get the proper rest, sleep could affect our work, mood, and concentration. In addition to self-care, not attending to family business can lead to dysfunction which can transfer into work as well.
When in doubt, take a break and attend to you and/or your personal business. This will in turn give you the energy you need to create a happy balance between work and personal life. A happy balance in work and personal life is the best way to maintain your peace of mind. When your work and personal affairs are together, you tend to achieve more too.
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Conclusion
BS is manageable if you have the right mindset and game plan. In order to deal with BS, you need to learn how to disconnect your emotions from your need to react. If you find that this is impossible, have a plan in place to help you regroup. Your plan may also include connecting with a therapist. Or maybe even choosing to ignore BS altogether. Last but not least, don’t forget to take breaks. With these methods, you can keep your sanity intact, manage drama, and continue to achieve results.
